Alright, I’m going to dive right in here with my sleeves rolled up and straight up say that when it comes to sex, all of the pressure is on men. And no, I’m not talking about sexualization–I’m talking about the actual act itself. Screwing, fucking, the horizontal mambo, boinking if you’re Bruce Willis circa 1986 (Yes, I dropped an obscure Moonlighting reference). Society may place more pressure on women to be sexual, but what happens after that? When it comes to actually doing the deed, the pressure for good sex is on the man. Have you ever heard of a woman with performance anxiety? No, of course not. Why? Because when it comes to sex, success is dependent upon the performance of the male. Allow me to make the case.
Let’s address the elephant in the room right off the bat. The penis. Cutesy little sayings like, “it’s not the size of the boat, it’s the motion of the ocean” beat around the bush, so I’ll cut to the chase: size matters.
I’m sure there’s a happy medium in the penis world, but let me ask the ladies reading this a question. If you were with a guy you really liked–he’s hot, successful, great personality–and you two were finally getting ready to have sex for the first time and he stripped down to reveal a small penis, wouldn’t some part of you be disappointed? Specifically the part of you between your legs. Put another way, would you rather have a dick that’s on the bigger side or the smaller side? I’d be willing to bet money most women would answer bigger.
But wait! The pressure on the penis doesn’t stop there! For some reason, nature saw fit to make the penis single fire. In other words, it gets one shot at sex before there’s either screaming to the rafters or disappointment, shame, and a lot of eating pie at the fridge whilst crying. Yes, there are things you can do in that refractory period between boners to keep the mood going, but come on. Ladies ain’t got no time for a two-pump chump.
Now think about the things we sexualize when it comes to women. Tits and ass. I can guarantee you that the size of a woman’s boobs or the shape of her ass have never prevented a guy from getting off during sex. There’s no such thing as a woman who doesn’t last long enough in bed either. That last sentence doesn’t even make sense. As long as you’ve got functional parts, you’re basically good to go. Oh, and speaking of functional parts, there’s male impotence. So far the penis is 0 for 3.
Women talk with their girlfriends about sex. That’s a given fact. And why not? There are so many variables involved in how a man delivers. But a man would never ask another man, “How was she in the sack?” It’s almost a moot point. A woman could lie there like a cold fish and 99% of men would still get off, roll over, and go to sleep.
100% of men agree this isn’t possible
I’ll wrap this up with what I believe to be a rather succinct summary of the anxiety and pressure men face in the bedroom compared to women. Getting a man off is like drawing a stick figure: anyone can do it, it doesn’t take long, and even the crudest approximation will get the job done. Getting a woman off is like painting a piece of impressionist art: it takes awhile, you have to master all the brush strokes, and you need the right technique.