I’ve heard women say this before and I’ve definitely seen it on dating profiles: If you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best!
Just what the fuck is this nonsense supposed to mean? That I should just put up with any and all irrational behavior if I want to get anything remotely positive out of the relationship? A woman who says this is basically advertising a rocky road ahead. Why would any man possibly be interested in that? I know that nobody is perfect and that every relationship has its ups and downs, but come on.
What I especially don’t get is that this is somehow an empowering phrase to women. If a man can’t handle your worst behavior, he doesn’t deserve you. What a ridiculous double standard. Can you imagine if some guy walked up to a woman and said, “I’m going to treat you like a total dick when we’re in public but like a princess in private.” What the fuck would a woman say to that? You can bet that women would be up in arms over the misogyny, and rightly so. But for some reason it’s perfectly okay for women to say something equivalent to this.
I just don’t get it. It’s like trying to give yourself carte blanche to be a horrible person, a get-out-of-jail-free card for behaving like an ass. Whatever happened to just trying to be a decent person?