Why do people stay in relationships with cheaters? If someone cheated on you, then they obviously aren’t as committed as you are. I don’t care if it was a “moment of weakness” or you were drunk or some other stupid bullshit. There’s always a choice, and if you choose to cheat or put yourself in a situation where you’re likely to cheat, then that represents a conscious decision on your part. And that’s a decision I just don’t get making if you claim that you’re committed to one person. So, in light of this, how can the cheated justify or rationalize staying with the cheater? It doesn’t make much sense to me. If it happened once, it can happen again, and probably will.
But perhaps even more baffling to me is why the cheater would want to stay in the relationship. I guess that the person who was cheated on might worry about finding someone else or have low self-esteem…but what would keep the cheater in the relationship? Obviously they’re sexually interested in other people, and obviously they’re quite capable of successfully landing the people that they’re sexually interested in. So why is the cheater limiting themselves to one person? Seems like monogamy is just setting yourself up for failure. Or at least you’re bound to break a lot of hearts along the way for no reason. If you’ve got a wandering eye or you’re interested in more than one person, there’s a pretty simple solution: don’t enter an exclusive relationship. Seems pretty simple to me. Have an open relationship, try a polyamorous relationship, or don’t have a relationship at all–just have friends with benefits. Whatever you want to call it, everything is out in the open, there are no expectations for monogamy or exclusivity, and nobody will be offended or heartbroken when another person enters the picture.
And finally this last meme brings me to what I don’t understand the most. If you go out with someone who you know is a cheater, how can you be surprised or disappointed when they cheat on you? This is the epitome of stupid. As the meme suggests, if someone cheats with you, then that’s kind of a red flag. Like people who think their lover will leave a spouse for them. Uh, hello? If this man or woman is willing to leave a marriage once, why wouldn’t you think that they’re capable of doing it again?
At the end of the day, there’s a pretty easy way to avoid cheating if you’re already in a relationship: end the fucking relationship before you cheat. Shocking, I know. But if you’ve got the hots for someone else while you’re in a relationship, have the courtesy to at least end your relationship before pursing someone else. It’s cowardly and lazy to try to have your cake and eat it too or to hide cheating for fear of the consequences. Face the music with some dignity or just straight up end things if they’re headed down the cheating path. And for the love of God, people, stop going out with cheaters. It’s like mamma always said: once a cheater, always a cheater. What do you guys think?