This is a reoccurring theme I hear from women over and over, in real life, on message boards, online dating profiles, and blogs. Nothing is sexier than a confident man. Bull-to-the-shit! Puh-lease. If men are to believe women, being confident is more important than physical appearance. Sorry, but I have the sneaking suspicion that this is really just an empty platitude. Or that there’s a missing second half to this idea. “Nothing is sexier than a confident man…except, you know, a super hot one.” And perhaps that’s why this rings wholly untrue for me.
How many attractive men do you know who aren’t confident? Now how many unattractive men do you know who are confident? Well gee whiz, what do you know? Perhaps women associate confidence with sexiness because hot guys are much more likely to be confident. Because in all seriousness, ladies, who would you rather choose:
This guy, even if he was shy, insecure, and neurotic…
…or this guy, even if he was full of confidence and smooth as hell?
That’s what I thought. Even if the first guy was insecure, shy, and withdrawn, women would probably swoon that he was sensitive and vulnerable. So please, can we cut all this “confidence = sexy” bullshit? We all know that when it comes down it, I mean really comes down to it, physical appearance > confidence.