I’ll be the first to admit that this meme directly applies to me. I’ve always been terrible at determining whether or not a girl is romantically interested in me. I just don’t get the subtlety, the non-verbal cues. It’s all like some foreign language to me. But in this day and age, isn’t there plenty to be confused about? After all, as the meme implies, how do you decide whether someone has approached you because they’re interested in you or if they’re just being nice? But wait, it gets more complicated!
Some people in relationships flirt. People of my generation believe that flirting is essentially harmless fun. A girl might have an exclusive boyfriend, but go out to the club with her girlfriends and flirt with some dudes. Said dudes have no way of knowing that said girl has a boyfriend. She’s flirting with them, so why would they assume she did? In the 21st century, flirting isn’t cheating, so long as it never goes beyond casual words. And even if a girl isn’t in a relationship, she might be flirting just to have a little fun.
Suffice it to say, I can’t tell when women are flirting with me or more importantly why they are. But another problem that I have is that I believe that women probably wouldn’t flirt with me in the first place. Any insecurities aside, this isn’t 1850 anymore, where the dating pool is pretty much whoever lives in your town. Thanks to technology, the dating pool is wide open now. So how does one stand out in a virtual sea of men? I’m not really special, at least when it comes to why a woman would flirt with me. I’m just a normal guy. I have a hard time believing that there’s something about me that would draw a woman to me, at least when compared to all the other single, available men out there.
So I tend to automatically assume that every woman I talk to or meet is not romantically interested in me. Or that she already has a significant other. It really eliminates all the awkwardness surrounding this flirting business. But ultimately, it means I don’t flirt. I just have honest interactions with people. Maybe that can be awkward. Maybe I come off as uninterested, clueless, or obtuse. But honestly, that’s a small price to pay in return for never having to over-analyze every action, every word, trying to determining if there’s a romantic subtext. I never have to worry about whether or not this girl “likes” me.
Moreover, I don’t really think I would be good at flirting even if I wanted to or thought that some girl was interested in me. My brain just isn’t wired to be smooth or have any game. I’ve never been adept at using innuendo, teasing, or suggestion. I don’t really think of myself as oozing machismo or having sex appeal, so I can’t really convey sexuality in a flirtatious way. While I do have self-confidence, I’m not one to talk myself up or anything like that. I don’t have a commanding presence or any sort of animal magnetism. I’m just me. And believe me, there’s plenty of awkwardness to go around.